Participation Check

Participation Check is a concise and powerful Tool that involves registering within myself if I am positive, Present and engaged or simply puttering by in life, am into my repetitive inner story line of hurt, worry, fear and simultaneously contracting my energy. Similar to an interested scientist, when I do a Participation Check, I simply look within and take tally of what I find. Am I harboring anger? Am I considering life to be the boring doldrums and just scrapping by the day with an inner grumble? Do I notice the world around me and am I Present with the gifts and Blessings that each moment offers – whether is it a flower blooming beside the bus stop or a child laughing or a co-worker bringing me a tea? Essentially, the question is, am I awake in this moment to the flow of Love around me?

What I Learned About Parenting at a Psychiatric Hospital

After several months providing family therapy in the adolescent unit of a psychiatric hospital I have come across some common denominators of problematic parenting that have taught me important lessons and changed my own parenting approach. Granted, children’s behaviors are not entirely in the hands of their parents; they have their own temperaments and, in the case of these patients, they may have what is labeled as a mental/physiological disorder; nevertheless, parents have great power in influencing their kids and their behaviors and this is key for creating more ease for both parents and children.

Choose Love Not War: Loving YourSelf and Others

Have you ever had the experience of “battling” with a loved one? Recently, I had been battling with my four-year old son. In the past month we moved into a new house and welcomed a second son into the family. I’m certain my four-year old’s behavior was due to all the change that had occurred in our family. To be honest, I was feeling some growing and adjusting pains, too. Even though I intellectually knew that my son was having a hard time adjusting and his unpleasant and even violent behavior was a result of this, when he started to push my buttons my response was to push back. We battled like this for about three weeks until finally I found a solution. It was, of course, Love.

The True Role Of A Parent

In the Fall of 2008, I began participating in Cosmos Tree Meditations and studying with Founder and Director, Dr. Roger B. Lane. At the time, I was married but did not have any children. I had no idea how much I did not know about mySelf or about being a parent. Before having children, I was certain that my own experience with my parents and the babysitting jobs I held throughout my life were preparation enough to raise my own. Blessedly for me, by the time I did have children I had a foundation of The Teachings that inform Cosmos Tree, Which every day assist me in being the best parent I can be by Teaching me how to be the Spirit that I am.

Are You Busy Making ‘Nice, Nice’? Learn What ‘Nice’ Really Is.

Many, if not most of us, are unconscious when we speak to others. One of these “unconscious” forms of communication is making “nice, nice”. For example, a friend of mine recently asked me to do her a favor and instead of simply asking me directly, she chose to flatter me over and over again before finally, finally asking for the favor. I knew it was a manipulation. It’s a lot like the example of a husband who tells his wife how much he loves her cooking, which can be a Loving and Clear communication, but it can also be a manipulation so that his wife continues to cook for him and to cook for him and to cook for him some more.

How To Make A “Difficult” Choice: Choosing With Spirit

Recently, I was faced with a “difficult” choice. I learned through using the Tools available to me from Cosmos Tree and its Founder, Dr. Roger B. Lane, that I exercise my power by choosing. Really, we all have power. I’d like to share why the choice seemed “difficult” and what it meant for me to take control of the situation and be in my power.

How To Live A Vibrant Life!

Can’t get over the hump, cross that first bridge you are staring down, let go of the end of the rope you’ve tethered yourself to for staying in the shallows? Many of us wonder when our dull lives become the lives we envisioned ourselves leading. We make resolutions – empty promises – gripe about the blockades in our way and feel somehow disempowered and disenfranchised from the life, the excitement, the fulfillment and the peace that we really want. How do we move from stuck to living a vibrant life that beats true to the drum of our innermost heart?

The Resurrection of a Happy Parent

Recently I decided to play a little trick on my four-year-old girl. We were in my bedroom and I suddenly decided to turn off the light and run out of the room as fast as I could. I knew she would love this. I knew she would immediately understand that she needed to chase me and catch me. When she caught up to me she said, with surprise, “Mama, why are you happy?!”

If Looks Could Kill

If looks could kill I’d slay all day. I’d knock ‘em dead like an advertisement featuring a gaggle of leggy 90’s mega, super models donning Versace with long-burn cigarettes dripping from their perfect pouts. If looks could kill hearts would cease beating, final exhales would rush out on busy street corners and multiple 911 calls would cite a vixen as the criminal. My culprit signature would be high heel footprint everywhere I struck and, though the FBI would trace my tousled mane-sightings, I would always be just out of reach and beyond prosecution. That would be if looks could kill.

Why Meditate?

When people learn that I have a devoted, daily Meditation practice they look at me with an expression that melds interest, desire, repulsion and recognition. It is like they are shocked because, after all, I look so normal. How could someone Spiritual be shopping at Barney’s New York and be jovial at cocktail parties? I’m often quizzed about this ancient art and am asked again and again, “Why Meditate?”