Participation Check

Participation Check is a concise and powerful Tool that involves registering within myself if I am positive, Present and engaged or simply puttering by in life, am into my repetitive inner story line of hurt, worry, fear and simultaneously contracting my energy. Similar to an interested scientist, when I do a Participation Check, I simply look within and take tally of what I find. Am I harboring anger? Am I considering life to be the boring doldrums and just scrapping by the day with an inner grumble? Do I notice the world around me and am I Present with the gifts and Blessings that each moment offers – whether is it a flower blooming beside the bus stop or a child laughing or a co-worker bringing me a tea? Essentially, the question is, am I awake in this moment to the flow of Love around me?

Are You Busy Making ‘Nice, Nice’? Learn What ‘Nice’ Really Is.

Many, if not most of us, are unconscious when we speak to others. One of these “unconscious” forms of communication is making “nice, nice”. For example, a friend of mine recently asked me to do her a favor and instead of simply asking me directly, she chose to flatter me over and over again before finally, finally asking for the favor. I knew it was a manipulation. It’s a lot like the example of a husband who tells his wife how much he loves her cooking, which can be a Loving and Clear communication, but it can also be a manipulation so that his wife continues to cook for him and to cook for him and to cook for him some more.

How To Live A Vibrant Life!

Can’t get over the hump, cross that first bridge you are staring down, let go of the end of the rope you’ve tethered yourself to for staying in the shallows? Many of us wonder when our dull lives become the lives we envisioned ourselves leading. We make resolutions – empty promises – gripe about the blockades in our way and feel somehow disempowered and disenfranchised from the life, the excitement, the fulfillment and the peace that we really want. How do we move from stuck to living a vibrant life that beats true to the drum of our innermost heart?

The Resurrection of a Happy Parent

Recently I decided to play a little trick on my four-year-old girl. We were in my bedroom and I suddenly decided to turn off the light and run out of the room as fast as I could. I knew she would love this. I knew she would immediately understand that she needed to chase me and catch me. When she caught up to me she said, with surprise, “Mama, why are you happy?!”

Why Meditate?

When people learn that I have a devoted, daily Meditation practice they look at me with an expression that melds interest, desire, repulsion and recognition. It is like they are shocked because, after all, I look so normal. How could someone Spiritual be shopping at Barney’s New York and be jovial at cocktail parties? I’m often quizzed about this ancient art and am asked again and again, “Why Meditate?”

Does Your Child Look Like You?: Appearance and True Identity

The question I most often get as a parent, from friends, family members and strangers alike, is, “whom do you think your child looks like?” By that I think they mean, “Is your child a physical copy of you or your husband?”

Visually speaking, I don’t think my children look like copies of anyone; they just look like themselves. More importantly, I know through The Teachings brought forth by Dr. Roger B. Lane that the True Focus on this Earth is not an outer one, but is an Inner One.

My Best Friend

From a very young age, I was blessed with tender and hilarious friendships that have enriched my world to such a large degree that life changed course with my gravitational pull shifting to curve itself around these dynamic babes. We shared tandem experiences; shot through our learning curve with a matched ferocity and joie de vivre; embraced exotic lands; enjoyed love’s sweet blossom in our hearts; expanded and expressed our talents in careers that featured our strengths and tested us; entered into motherhood with wide-eyed amazement and love-defining moments that ripened us to our core and celebrated each other along the way with laughing hearts.

Word To The Mother

When I was in high school I rarely connected sex to making babies or growing the heritage of families. Likely, because I was a baby myself. Fierce, frisky and a wild child I thought of pregnancy as an unfortunate side effect that could strike down even the bravest and boldest of us Generation Y-ers. Very similar to how I might accidentally ding my rearview taillight while reversing in the high school parking lot post-track meet. I was cavalier to such a point that my blasé approach to conception-free sex was how I thought the biological system worked. I figured that the world was made for enjoyment and playfulness. At least that’s how my petri-dish, microcosm snapshot of life appeared. My existence was filled with young love, laughter and exploration. This was compounded by my rapidly maturing body and an immature teenage frontal lobe.

Why is Cosmos Tree’s Focus on Our Learning Responsibility? And Why is Responsibility so much FUN?

Roger B. Lane, Ph.D., the Founder and Director of Cosmos Tree, teaches Responsibility. It is defined by Dr. Lane as “The ability to respond to the Spirit we are.” That means focusing into Spirit/Being Present by doing just That. And, as this writer has discovered after many years of study with Dr. Lane, Responsibility equals Freedom.

How To Find Love: Love From A Spiritual Perspective

You entertain the question mark inside you that punctuates, “How do I find love?” Maybe the latest dating app will offer a new forte of handsome suitors and amid that dapper crowd one single, perfect gentleman will sweep you off your feet. Maybe there’s a cute surfer boy living next door whose path you’ve never crossed before on his early morning barefoot walk down to the beach. Maybe the crush you had on a co-worker will come to sweet, suit and pocket square fruition when the autumn leaves start to turn.