When I was in high school I rarely connected sex to making babies or growing the heritage of families. Likely, because I was a baby myself. Fierce, frisky and a wild child I thought of pregnancy as an unfortunate side effect that could strike down even the bravest and boldest of us Generation Y-ers. Very similar to how I might accidentally ding my rearview taillight while reversing in the high school parking lot post-track meet. I was cavalier to such a point that my blasé approach to conception-free sex was how I thought the biological system worked. I figured that the world was made for enjoyment and playfulness. At least that’s how my petri-dish, microcosm snapshot of life appeared. My existence was filled with young love, laughter and exploration. This was compounded by my rapidly maturing body and an immature teenage frontal lobe.

“How do I become more Spiritual?” you ask?

A search of this question online brings up over 165 million results. If I were to make a bet less than 1% of those links point to the Truth.

The answer, in short, is you Allow yourself to be more yourSelf.

Yes. Simply by being yourSelf. That’s Self with a capital “S”, Which refers to that part of us That is Eternal. Divine. The Spirit we are.

“GIVE YOURSELF THE LIFE YOU WANT!!!” is printed in big boldface type on the cover of the latest Cosmos Tree brochure. The new Cosmos Tree website, on its Home page, says “LIVE THE LIFE YOU WANT!”

As the brochure states, Cosmos Tree “offers Tools you can use – “CDs; MP3s; DVDs; Talks; Open Hours; Classes; Workshops; and Publications … to assist you in transforming your innate potential into concrete reality.

So where to begin?

I had a dream recently where I was very happy and not really able to walk. I jumped freely everywhere I went, similar to the effortless way that my four-year old daughter does everyday. But I was not a little kid in my dream. I was the grown woman that I am today but I was skipping over sidewalks, playfully jumping up to touch any fun thing that hung several feet over my head. When I woke up, my dream very strongly reminded me of what was really true in my life. Nothing else seemed true that day. I had been lying on a hospital bed for a couple of days, tucked in by the IV bags to my left and vital signs machines to my right.

When people refer to dreams, they often distinguish them from their reality. They’d say “I had a dream that so-and-so happened but in real life so-and-so happened”. In a dream class I took, our Teacher, Dr. Roger B. Lane, would lovingly clarify to the students that it is not “…in real life…” but rather “…in waking life…” that “…so-and-so happened”. It is an important distinction that I learned there because my happiness that day, in my dream, was more nearly real than the misery and fear that I had been running in my waking life. That day my dream, in fact, was the only lucid thing trying to wake me up.

When I opened my eyes that morning I saw the absurdity of the consuming worry that I have carried for very long; especially, since becoming a mother. This is the same worry that might have sent me to the hospital two days before with a bleeding ulcer. It was a medical mystery given than I am actually healthy but I knew how much this summer I had indulged in my fears. At several points, I actually felt as if I were being ripped apart inside, which turned out to be, well, not a metaphor. The way it looked to me was as if I had been in the middle of a tug-of-war. On one end there was a profound concern to be near my kid and, on the other, a need to do something professionally that would demand more time away from my kid. I wish it had been as simple as choosing one or the other but I felt unhappy choosing just one. I wanted “the balance” and what I discovered was that looking for balance outside myself was impossible.

It seems very obvious now. If I was looking for an actual balancing tool I would never have chosen one whose foundation, its center, had been neglected. I looked outside myself for balance, adding a little to this side and a little to the other side until the weight was unbearable and the world started to look cruel, all because I had abandoned myself. Something many of us parents do.

Parents, we get a lot of advice out there; most of it involves parenting, obviously, but what really always surprises me is how often the person in the parent is forgotten. Reading all that parenting advice, I have often felt as if I am the only parent who desperately feels like a kid looking for a parent herself. Unsatisfied, I had to conclude that what I was looking for had nothing to do with parenting even though most of my concerns involved being a parent. Many times I thought “Why can I be addressed as a parent who is not really looking for another way to be a “good” parent but as someone looking for some answers about the experience of being a parent?!”

But I would like to take this point to a much more profound and useful place because forgetting “the person in the parent” is not really what we are doing: It is the Soul in the parent – actually, the Soul in everybody– That we forget. And the Soul is What needs to be remembered because That’s What’s inside! We look outside at the world as if we are going to find ourselves there when we can just look inside and start to get to know ourselves.

You may call the Soul something else; it does not matter. But It is That part of you that is made out of God – or Whatever you want to call It – that is you and It is me and That nourishes us unconditionally. The part of us that, when we have reached our breaking point or, like me, end up with an ulcer, gives us an Opportunity like my dream to remind me that, in reality, I am pure Joy. That’s the part that we need to remember. The Soul, Spirit, God, or whatever you want to call It, is really the parent who cares for us and It is also the “kid” that needs our care and this seeming dialectical relationship is simply that we are the Spirit. It is us meeting us because It is all inside.

So how do we nourish This? What I have learned from renowned Meditation Teacher, Dr. Roger B. Lane, is that we need to choose to give ourselves “the time of day” to practice moving our focus within and exercise the Spiritual Muscle. And as Dr. Lane says “… Don’t run after it; just open to It! Open to yourSelf and just see the Splendor, and the Love, and the Peace that waits there for you!” (from Tools For Living Free #79 “More On Love”)

Below are some recommended Tools to practice moving your focus within:

Attending Meditation at any Center at Cosmos Tree, Inc.
Listening to Dr. Roger B. Lane’s Podcast
Reading Tools For Living Free:
“The Nature Of The Soul Is Joy”
“Coming To Know Your Self As Spirit”
“The Spiritual Reality Of Man Kind”
“You Are Worthy”
“Dancing In Your Soulness”
“Using The Tool Of Gratitude”
-See complete list of readings here

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I’d like to share with you some easy ways to pray with children. One Prayer I do with my children is the “Blessing of the Food”, taught to me by Dr. Roger B. Lane, Founder/Director of Cosmos Tree. I Bless the food with my children before every meal. Sometimes my young ones join in and sometimes they just listen as I say It.

Here’s how to do It:
1. Call in The Light Of The Most High with your child by saying, “Lord, God, send us Your Light!”
2. Say together, “For The Highest Good, please Bless this food with the Light of Your Loving Presence.”
3. Pause for a moment while you and your family RECEIVE the Light Of The Most High and you experience Gratitude for the food you have!
4. Close by saying, “Thank you, Lord, God!” and En-Joy your meal!

Another Prayer that I do with my older child is the “Nighttime Prayer”. As a child, I remember using my nightly prayer, “Now I lay me down to sleep…” to say a rhyme and then ask for things that I wanted. In the Tools For Living Free #25 “Using The Tool Of Prayer”, Dr. Roger B. Lane says, “that’s fine, … but … many times we approach it like beggars.” Dr. Lane suggests another way to pray, “… a really positive way of working (it) is to approach God in the fullness of your Being as a Co-creator and with being Responsible.”

Dr. Lane teaches that being Responsible is the ability to RESPOND to the Spirit we are. How do we Respond to Spirit? As Dr. Lane says, “[by] Loving [the Lord, God], Serving Him, Choosing the Spirit we are, letting go of doubt, fear, pain, oppression each and every moment.” (TFLF #25).

A nice way to do that is through Gratitude. It is impossible to be in doubt, fear, pain when our Focus is in Gratitude. So, I’ve taught my daughter a prayer of Gratitude to do before she sleeps.

Here’s how to do it:
1. Call in the Light Of The Most High by saying. “Lord, God, send us Your Light!”
2. Ask your child what s/he is thankful for in his/her life. It can be anything your child feels gratitude towards.
3. Place all that your child is grateful for into the Light Of The Most High by saying, “Lord, God, send us Your Light! For the Highest Good, please Bless [name things child is grateful for]. Thank you, Lord, God for all of this!
4. You can say this along with your child until they become familiar with the prayer and don’t need prompting.
5. If there is something the child really wants or would like in his/her life, co-create it with the Lord, God by having the child say, “Lord, God, send us Your Light! For the Highest Good, please bring forward [whatever it is the child wants. Be specific.]
6. Then have the child “let it go” by saying, “[child’s name or whatever they call him/herself], it’s OK to let it go!”

As you Bless the food and say nighttime Prayers with your child, I Lovingly encourage you to also be in Gratitude for the many Blessings you have in your life!

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I vividly remember the exact afternoon I heard the first notes of reggae music. I was perched on the cliffs with childhood girlfriends overlooking the sparkling Pacific Ocean. When the music came on I was beyond taken with it. It went straight to my mainline and my heartbeat permanently shifted to that of a crisp roots rhythm guitar. I was awash in the sweet sound. As the honorable Robert Nesta Marley said, “One good thing about music is when it hits you, you feel no pain.”

Reggae has a pure, positive vibe to it. It matches me perfectly. It was me living a sun-soaked, bikini-laden, sandy feet, beachside youth in Southern California. It was my college nights in dreary, dreamy London-town, with the strong Jamaican influx of roots and ragga music banging from beneath the cobblestone street basement clubs. Reggae was always more than a sing-a-long at a summer time concert or a fat dub bass line mixed with keyboard and brass horns for me; it was a happy reminder of life being joyful, easy and fun.

A lot of the pure reggae vibes, barring some dark horses like Peter Tosh and a handful of fiery young bloods, are steeped in positivity and have that signature Caribbean, Polynesian, South American as well as New Zealand and Australian heritages of, “No worries. Easy now. Hang loose. No problemo. Shaka bra. I’ve got nothing but love for me bredren and sistren.” The lyrics are inclusive. All accepting. All loving. All’s good. Mix in a little sass of, “Cock up yuh bumper, sit down pon it,” and you’ve got an anthem brewing.

This is the aspect that always kept me returning. Positivity plus the coined, “No worries.” I took that notion to heart. Yet, I also had my feet very firmly planted on the ground and wondered to myself, “With all do respect for the forefathers of this rad music revolution, do they actually think there are no worries in life?” Really, no worries? Zero. How do they do that?

Even though I was young and my life was peachy keen even I recognized that the world seemed to hold an ongoing series of problems and troubles. “How can you truly have no worries?” I wondered. I laughingly concluded that these raggamuffins must be high on herbal sacrament to such a large degree that their exclusive daily responsibility was just to collect tropical fruits and spearfish for dinner. They, in fact, were so very worry-free that they casually rocked bellbottom jeans when it was 96 degrees in the shade. I’m generalizing, of course, but the “no worries” essence always kept me curious. It can’t be that simple as just saying it even in sweet harmonization, I thought.

I kept on skanking. Kept on growing. Kept on living. Kept on keeping on. Problems came and problems went. Money came, money went; money came again. Lovers came, went and came again. Life was very good to me, much to give thanks for, and yet the low hum level of worry ran beneath the soundtrack of my life. This was despite the fact that I was a generally very positive and blessed person. Having worries given how lovely my landscape was seemed strange to me even though it is very much the accepted norm for most people. Now I know from my beloved Meditation Teacher, Dr. Roger B. Lane, “That what passes for normal in this world is actually crazy.”

I never thought to look within for the glowing and flowing freedom my heart was set on. Yet that is exactly what Dr. Lane has Taught me to do. Through immersing myself into the blissful Meditation Of The Light Of The Most High on a daily basis I have received wonderful experiences of steadfast calmness, laughter and humor, greater Blessings that I could have ever dreamed of, deep gratitude and a strong compass inside that knows my vessel is exactly where it needs to be.

This Meditation gives eternally. Ever living, ever faithful, ever sure. Even in my daily, mundane, waking moments everything is touched by the Light Of The Most High and made to shine in pure Joy. I am stoked. Living from this place is pure. Spirit just handles things for me. I feel as though I’m floating and my day-to-day life is so easy and grace-filled, like a concierge service is taking care of every detail. I am devotedly committed to keeping my inner environment clear and bright with the Love that I truly am through my Meditation practice. There is deep Devotion on my part and continual re-Commitment. Each moment. Each-and-every moment. There really, truly are no worries here. It is all Love and Love is all there is. It is ultimate Oneness, more so than any reggae ballad has ever conceived.

This is available to everyone. The most incredible, powerful thing in the world is within you. It is the Same as That Which is in me. The Soul. The Soul is Oneness. I & I, as the reggae vibes would hint at. In reality, we are all the Oneness. We just don’t know it. Until we do. It is the Oscillation of the Soul – Which is pure Love – in Divine Joy and Harmony. We are so blessed that we get to know This while we’re in the body, not after “death,” which is an illusion anyway, but right this moment as I listen to my favorite jams and enjoy a beautiful Wednesday afternoon. That’s the Immediacy of Spirit. I’ve learned very much through the Gift of Initiation, through the process of studying with Dr. Lane and through the Divine Experiences I’ve had while Meditating with The Light Of The Most High. The Soul in me is comprised of the same “material,” as it were, as That in Dr. Lane. The Teacher supports the student with great patience and Love. It is similar to if you were to learn a new language you would seek out a classroom and educator to guide you. Dr. Lane is deeply Committed to his Students and serving Them and welcomes all Students into the Meditation Studio, asking only that we Love God, Which is Loving ourSelves.

This is the ultimate egalitarian, equal rights, justice scenario. Dr. Lane Teaches that we are all deeply Loved. Infinitely. Beyond understanding. Regardless of what we do. Out beyond the field of wrong-doing and right-doing, as Rumi would say. We are implicitly perfect just as we are. Not on the physical level with our quirks nor on the emotional or mental with hot surges and circular thoughts. It’s the Soul within us. The part of us that is Perfect no matter what the outer circumstance is. It is the Essence of Who we really are. Even if we don’t know it. Similar to how gravity operates regardless of whether or not we acknowledge it, believe in it or can calculate it. It just is.

The good news is that you don’t have to understand anything to Receive. Start Meditating now by attending a Meditation at your local Center! Work with the Teacher, Dr. Lane, by requesting Initiation into the Sound Current On The Path Of Soul Transcendence! Do it all with a Loving heart and curiosity! You won’t have to take anyone’s word for anything. It’s all within. You’ll have direct experiences yourSelf. The system is that magical. Spirit customizes life for you to have the exact Learnings you need to Lift and Grow and know yourSelf as Soul. Cruise through the world with your focus on the Soul you are by Meditating and working with the Teacher and you will find that you are more powerful than you could have ever dreamed.

The sidekick, the byproduct of this awesome cocktail is that life become so easy, so joyful, so laughable that it is the best thing going. I can’t begin to describe how happy I am. How good the music sounds from this altitude! How everything just seems to happen for me and is better than I could have ever imagined! I smile. I am living the ride of my life. Irie I? You bet. No worries? Nah bra, not a single one. Immeasurable Love and natural mystic beyond words. Yes iyah.

The fire is blazing for you, too. Take the Gift if you’re reading this! Run with it and allow the Spirit you are to run the show. And rock steady to the sweet Sound of your Soul!

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Roger B. Lane, Ph.D., the Founder and Director of Cosmos Tree, teaches Responsibility. It is defined by Dr. Lane as “The ability to respond to the Spirit we are.” That means focusing into Spirit/Being Present by doing just That. And, as this writer has discovered after many years of study with Dr. Lane, Responsibility equals Freedom.

Dr. Lane, through Cosmos Tree, teaches that we are Responsible for our creations. And that creation away from Spirit is karma. This means we are Powerful! We have the Power to create positively by Co-creating with Spirit and by Trusting, Allowing and Receiving, both as taught by Dr. Lane. And from that Place of Spirit living exactly What Dr. Lane teaches, including giving mySelf the life I want; Neutrality; Self-Acceptance; Gratitude; Forgiveness; Loving mySelf and, most important, Knowing I’m Inherently Worthy and re-enforcing That Re-cognition. So “the best thing you can do for anyone,” as Dr. Lane states in a Talk by the same name, is focus into Spirit, live as the Spirit you are.

This writer has discovered that Responsibility is a Learning; and It is One we need to give ourselves NOW. Cosmos Tree, under Dr. Lane, stands out in teaching Responsibility; and in teaching It the way It needs to be taught, which is as an inner focus that is kept moment-to-moment through Eternal Vigilance. That Vigilance is the effort I make to be On Point by keeping my Inner Environment Clear.

I’m in Process on Responsibility. I have Learned It and continue to practice and perfect being Responsible by using the many Responsibility Tools that Cosmos Tree offers, chief among them regular attendance at Meditations Of The Light Of The Most High at the New York City Home Center.

It’s worth a trip, dear readers, to be in the Presence of Dr. Lane! Once you’ve attended One, you are given what you need to practice at home. Meditation as taught by Dr. Lane equals Learning to focus into the Spirit you are.

The Money Workbook is also key as a Tool. Pick It up; turn a page; and Wow! There’s another brilliant Writing by Dr. Lane – a Learning, really – about Responsibility. I recommend “working” this Book as the 30-Day Program that It is at least once, then feel free to read individual sections or Chapters on Responsibility.

I love the following: Early on in the Book, Dr. Lane writes: “If we can create illness, we can create health. If we can create poverty, we can create wealth. If we can create failure, we can create success.” We are that Powerful and that Magnificent and that Responsible for using the Positive Power we are by creating Positively. All of this Learning pours forth fromThe Money Workbook! What more is there, really?

Then there is the equally brilliant Chapter on “Visualization and Programming” – creating the life you want literally by co-creating with Spirit. Dr. Lane writes: “Knowing that we are responsible for the world we live in and that we create it, how can we create it to our advantage and to that of others?”

And again, in a Chapter titled “Who Is Responsible For Our Creations?” Dr. Lane writes: “Knowing that you and only you are responsible for each and every one of your creations, choosing responsibly becomes the only intelligent action.”

Two more beautiful Responsibility Tools are Tools For Living Free Numbers 12 and 13 titled “Taking Responsibility: Tag You’re It”, Parts I and II respectively. Dr. Lane states in #12: “So part of our Responsibility is to give ourselves the best, to love ourselves despite our own feelings and to put them aside and to just allow the Truth and to just receive the Love that’s there.” Dr. Lane continues: “Meditation is a nice way to sit in that Love and nurture It … .”

Dr. Lane teaches many important Classes, all of Them about our Responsibility to know ourselves. None more crucial for newcomers – and regulars, too! – than Everyday Evolution I. And check periodically the cosmostree.org Classes page and give This to yourself the next time It is offered. You’ll Learn the importance of educating the part of you that brings forward your karmic patterns to the Clear Flow of Spirit.

So live Responsibility by following Dr. Lane’s Teachings – and by using the many Offerings available at Cosmos Tree. Watch what happens “out there” when you are Responsible “in there”! That’s where the FUN is; where the Joy is; where the Peace is. It’s in your Power as Spirit.

If you are interested in learning more about the Spiritual Path that Dr. Lane brings forward, please visit www.spiritcentral.org or email info@spiritcentral.org

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I Mediate daily with the Meditation Of The Light Of The Most High, taught by Dr. Roger B. Lane, the Founding Director of Cosmos Tree, and know the many physical, emotional, mental – and most importantly – Spiritual benefits of my practice. I would love for my children to benefit like I do from Meditation, but let’s face it! They are 5, 3, and 2 years old. I can’t even get them to sit quietly for 5 minutes, let alone hours!

Dr. Roger B. Lane advised me to start with a simple exercise for children. A precursor to the Meditation Of The Light Of The Most High, this exercise can help children to relax; practice quiet time; and to strengthen their ability to Focus.

Here’s how to do it:

1. Sit your child in a comfortable spot with his/her arms and legs uncrossed.

2. Call in The Light Of The Most High by saying, “For the Highest Good, Lord, God, send us Your Light! Thank you.”

3. Tell your child/children to close their eyes and take a deep breath completely relaxing themSelves!

4. Now tell them to pretend they have a nose in the middle of their forehead. Have them “breathe” in and out through this nose in their forehead. For my little ones I guide them by placing my finger on the center of their foreheads and say, “Here! Pretend the nose is here and breathe in and out!” Do this exercise for a short time at first – 10 seconds, 30 seconds, a minute – gradually increasing the time as they become accustomed to the exercise.

5. Note that while doing this exercise slow deep breaths relax your child but the focus of the exercise is not on the breath. Rather, the focus is on the “nose” in the middle of their forehead. By “breathing” here, your child is practicing “rising” above thoughts and feelings and placing his/her attention at Spirit.

6. As your child/children become accustomed to this exercise and are able to sit quietly for longer periods of time, you may add this important step to the process. Tell your child/children to say the word “HU” (pronounced like you) inside themselves while they breathe out of the nose in their forehead. HU is an ancient name of the Lord, God.

As Dr. Lane has often instructed, Meditation is a way to work one’s “Spiritual Muscle”. And, as with most exercises, practice and consistency strengthen the muscle. As I have worked with my children I’ve had varied responses (from uncooperative to cooperative). It is my Responsibility to stay Neutral and present the exercise as it is laid out. If we have a day where they are especially wiggly, I say to the kids, “OK, we’ll try again tomorrow.” And we do! As I continue to work with my children, it is a Joy to know they are growing Spiritually strong!

In addition, I’ve found that doing this exercise with them is an Opportunity for ME to Focus and let go of any judgments or expectations I may have (about them, about myself as a parent, etc.). It is a time for me to be completely Present and Loving with my children and to share with them the Love I have for the Lord, God.

Another wonderful exercise to practice with children is the Two-Part Release Technique, taught by Dr. Lane and often featured in the Tools For Living Free publication, offered by Cosmos Tree. I use this Technique frequently for myself, and have begun to use it with my children when they are exhibiting anger, frustration, fear, sadness, etc. This Technique allows you to release negative thoughts and feelings in order to live as the Spirit you are!

Here’s how to do it:

1. Call in The Light Of The Most High with your child by saying, “Lord, God, send us Your Light!”

2. Ask your child if s/he has any hurt, pain, anger, etc. (You may already know what your child is feeling. I usually do and will then point out the feeling to my children by saying, “You seem really angry/sad/frustrated. Let’s let that go!”)

3. Tell them to repeat after you, “Lord, God, for the Highest Good, please take this hurt/pain/anger (whatever is bothering your child) from me!

4. Then tell your child to let it go by having them repeat after you, “(child’s name or name by which s/he refers him/herself) It’s okay to let it go!”

5. Repeat this process as often as necessary!

Both of these exercises, when done consistently, assist you and your child/children in living a more Spirit-Focused, Light-filled, life!

For more Resources that are geared specifically for adults browse our Resources section of this site. Cosmos Tree has many Tools/Resources that help you to live free! Visit our Monthly Talks page for a complete list of MP3s for Guidance on every situation in your life! Also visit the Tools For Living Free page to read free publications that explain how to live Spirit-centered!

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You entertain the question mark inside you that punctuates, “How do I find love?” Maybe the latest dating app will offer a new forte of handsome suitors and amid that dapper crowd one single, perfect gentleman will sweep you off your feet. Maybe there’s a cute surfer boy living next door whose path you’ve never crossed before on his early morning barefoot walk down to the beach. Maybe the crush you had on a co-worker will come to sweet, suit and pocket square fruition when the autumn leaves start to turn.

Maybe so. Maybe not. In the meantime that whole situation involves a lot of wanting, yearning and placing the love outside of yourself, dependent on another person. I’ve been there. To a certain degree. Only when I’m down-and-out, which lasts a maximum of 20-minutes before I quickly sweep the submerged bits and pieces of myself up off the floor and set myself straight with a little update of the reality of the situation. And the reality is always the same. The reality is always Love. That there is a deep well of Love inside of me that already exists regardless of outer situation. It is inside all of us.

That Love is all-encompassing, irreplaceable, incandescent and irresistible, as my beloved Meditation Teacher, Dr. Roger B. Lane, says. Love is with me every moment. It is with me in every mili-moment and everything in between. And it’s been here all along. And it is with you too. So here’s my invitation. Move off the looking outside for the love. Looking at the café’s roundabout of people in the mid-morning sun for the man of your dreams. Scanning the airport’s periphery while heading to your gate for the eye-catching of a transatlantic James Bond. It’s so darn easy to have it become a project. To ever-more be a lady in waiting for the right fellow. Waiting and waiting and waiting.

What are we waiting for? Really. For another person to say that we’re adored? It is placing a lot of weight on someone else, with all their flaws and glory, to choose us. The other thing is that it rests squarely on the lie of pretending we’re empty and we need to be filled up. It also balances on the fulcrum of our thinking that we’re not already Loved. That’s the lie we tell ourselves.

Yet this is the micro for the macro of the human condition. It’s not a female storyline or a single person tragedy. We all do it in our own ways with our own cast of characters. If we knew how Loved we already are we’d not even be called to play these empty games of measuring our self-worth by other people’s responses, by how much money we have in the bank, by the degrees we have achieved and more. The truth is that the most immense Love you could ever imagine lives within you, as you. As Dr. Lane Teaches, the Soul inside of you is the same “material” as God. You are a Soul. And the Soul is the same as the Spirit that is God. You are That. You are Spirit. So why on earth would you look for love? It’s like being on a treasure hunt when you are the treasure. The greatest gift and Love you could ever imagine already lives inside of you!

To come to know this through a very natural Process called Initiation into The Sound Current on The Path of Soul Transcendence. By this Process the Soul in you is sparked Awake by the Sound Current Master who brings The Teachings of the Path of Soul Transcendence and you continue to unravel the gift by giving it to yourSelf through doing the Meditation Taught at the time of Initiation. It is simple and natural. It is how the Soul inside of you is Awakened and the inherent Love starts to flow.

When you live in Love then the dating, the career achievements, family relationships, business deals, being a parent, landscaping, playing sports, dinner out, going for your Ph.D. and all the things of this world are Opportunities to Lift and Grow. There are here for our enjoyment. Dating becomes the enjoyment of the company of your man. Additionally, you learn to rise above the rollercoaster of thoughts and feelings and become no longer identified with them and you are no longer at their mercy. You are God-Centered and there is so much Joy there. It is staying within yourself regardless of outer circumstances and you live in the expression of this Love. There is gratitude, kindness to others and yourSelf, there is deep peace and you harness your intrinsic joy. It is Freedom and, from here, you simply enjoy the life God has given you.

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In the Fall of 2008, I began participating in Cosmos Tree Meditations and studying with Founder and Director, Dr. Roger B. Lane. At the time, I was married but did not have any children. I had no idea how much I did not know about mySelf or about being a parent. Before having children, I was certain that my own experience with my parents and the babysitting jobs I held throughout my life were preparation enough to raise my own. Blessedly for me, by the time I did have children I had a foundation of The Teachings that inform Cosmos Tree, Which every day assist me in being the best parent I can be by Teaching me how to be the Spirit that I am.

One Learning I’ve discovered through The Teachings is the true role of a parent. Even now, after studying for almost eight years, it is easy for me to get caught in the illusion that my main purpose as a parent is to forgo mySelf in order to be “of service” to those around me. This is far from the Truth. Dr. Lane says in Tool For Living Free #45 “Using The Tool Of Loving”, “…we tend to think if we’re giving ourselves the time of day we’re being selfish, we’re being egotistical, and it’s just the opposite. We’re being loving … and the best thing we can do for people is take care of our own upset, our own hurt, our own pain…”

Today, Cosmos Tree hosted its Sunday Program. The Program offers two Events by teleconference and I wanted to join both. On Sundays my husband is usually at home to watch the kids while I participate, but this Sunday he wanted to go to the store. I told him I would keep our two daughters during the Event so he could run “stress-free” errands with our son. I thought I was being “helpful”.

In making this choice, I did not give myself the “time of day” and quiet that I really needed to be on the call. I had a hard time listening to the host and was distracted by my girls as they played next to me. After the call, I asked myself if I had really been “helpful” and “of service” to those around me. As you may guess, the answer was “no”. I wasn’t able to give my attention to the girls and took from them the experience of spending time with their father, of whom they see little during the week. I didn’t allow my husband to have the experience of shopping with three little ones, which is not an easy feat but allows lots of Opportunities to practice patience and staying Present – all good things! Finally, I didn’t help myself. I wasn’t fully Present on the call and robbed myself of all the Learning and Growth I could have gained from participating in full.

By the time the second portion of the Program began, my husband was home. I gave him the three children and locked myself in a quiet room in back of the house. I lined up my Consciousness with participating in the Event and I remained Present as the host and other participants shared. It was an Uplifting, rejuvenating, relaxing and fun hour I was able to spend Focused on mySelf. Additionally, I left the call better prepared to manage the energy and chaos the little ones often demonstrate.

Being a devoted wife and mother is really about being devoted to mySelf. To the Spirit that I am. To the God within me. As Dr. Lane says, “… this is key: you can’t love God unless you love yourSelf. And you can’t love yourSelf unless you love God because they’re the Same.” (TFLF #45 “Using The Tool Of Loving)

It is from this place, the place of Loving mySelf and Loving God that I can share that Love with my family and truly be of service to them.

Fellow parents, I Lovingly encourage you to give yourSelf the time of day! Attend a (silent) Meditation at Cosmos Tree for an hour – an entire HOUR – of quiet in which you have the Opportunity to Focus on yourSelf! Come to the guided Meditation For Health And Well-Being, where you have the Opportunity to strengthen and heal all the parts of you that are worn, tired, and stressed from parenting! Or simply visit the Cosmos Tree web site, download one of the many Tools For Living Free Publications, and give yourSelf 10, 15, 30 minutes (go ahead – you deserve it!) to read, Learn, and Grow from the Teachings laid out by Dr. Lane! Use these Tools to Love yourSelf and be the best parent you can be!

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